Saturday, June 06, 2009


Thank you everyone! It is so lovely to hear words of encouragement and nudges to do something I can't decide on my own!

Update. I decided (this morning!) that since I was planning to go to the States next month anyway to just push up the date and leave Monday morning. I wasn't sure what I was waiting for. I mean, how serious does it have to be to be serious enough to justify a trip back to the States. I guess it is serious enough if I feel it is.

Tetsu and I got the ticket change arranged this morning and I leave day after tomorrow at 9:00 am. I have just spent an hour calling students and friends and letting them know of my change in plans. Gee. It's not like people live for my English class! Maybe even some of the kids will be happy for the break!

I've talked to Marcy a couple more times and things are not as critical as they first seemed. Mom's out of the ICU. Okay, I guess I will go and just keep her company and get in on the discussions of how to care for her from now on. Good!

I was relating all this to Tetsu and we were even laughing about some of the stories Marcy tells. Like how a jumbo nurse introduced herself and Mom looked up and groaned,

"Wow, she's big!"

Marcy shushed her saying "Grandma! Don't talk so loud! She might hurt you!"

And the nurse overheard and said, "Yeah! You don't want me to sit on you!!" and a lot of laughing followed for everyone, even for Grandma hanging over the bedpan!

Or how when pushing Grandma's bed from the emergency room to the ICU Grandma calls out "Marcy, where are you?"

And Marcy says, "Just hold on there Grandma! I'm steering!"

Tetsu can't believe that we can find humor in the situation. In his family (in Japan?) everyone takes offense if anyone, nurse, family members or other, makes light of a difficult situation. Gloom is supposed to prevail. Well, Laughter is the Best Medicine and the past couple of days it has done wonders for me. I've told Marcy that her laughter and joking has probably added a lot of years to my mother's life already.

So I am still here but not for long! I'm also going to give up on answering comments for awhile. Forgive me. Thank you so much!


Mary said...

Tanya, I'm glad you decided what to do esp. since there's no right answer, just what's right for you.

Humor DOES help. Keith was in the hospital recently for a procedure and we had the best nurse, she laughed and joked with us. We had a lot of laughs when we were caring for Keith's dad a few years ago before he died too.

Safe journey!

sewprimitive karen said...

Hope your trip goes well, Tanya. Humor does help at any time.

Sew Create It - Jane said...

Glad you got the answer...I knew you would I've been thinking about you most of yesterday and hoping you would sort out your plans. Have a safe trip!

Mrs. Goodneedle said...

Safe travels, praying for the return of good health. Know that we'll miss you while you're gone.

Connie W said...

Wishing you safe traveling and will be here when your life lets you post again. Hugs.

Marj said...

Glad you decided to go early. It will help your Mother get better soon. Keep laughing and have a safe trip.

Anonymous said...

Take care of your mother. We pray for her and your safe trip.
Douzo odaijini shitekudasai.
Keiko Suga

Bobbie Bentneedle said...

Prayers go with you for safe travels, quick recoveries, and a chance to make many more deposits in the memory banks for future cherishing!

Elaine Adair said...

Enjoy your visit and I'm wishing your Mom quick recovery!

I agree about laughing - it's actually GOOD for your blood pressure and attitude and makes those around you also happy.

Loved the Jumbo-nurse story. 8-))

dscriv said...

Travel safely. Bless you and your family.


Callie said...

Glad to hear your Mom is not as ill as was first thought. I'm sure you will bring more laughter and love to her bedside.

meggie said...

Laughter is the best medicine. Hope your trip is safe, & your mother much improved when you arrive.

Allie said...

Laughter is good! Find humor in everything you can. I'm glad your mum isn't as bad as first thought, and praying for her to get better. Praying too for safe travel for you, and please don't even consider answering posts - you have enough on your mind!

Amanda said...

There's no need to answer this - just sending my best wishes winging your way, for a safe trip and for your mother's improving health.